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The book was filled with all sorts of silly rules as the title aptly suggests: This book divided the female population into two groups: We cover this topic, and all your other burning questions, in our e-book.
Years after the Rules craze, there was a major backlash against game-playing. Adding fuel to the fire were the countless guys who came forward to declare how much they detest game playing.
Suddenly, being branded a game-player became the ultimate insult. As a result, being open and honest with your feelings became all the rage. You like a guy? Be forward, go hit on that guy at the bar, take a man out to dinner and foot the entire bill! How liberating is this? That was all well and good, but you know what happened? Their only motivation for removing said foot was to run away from their girlfriends and their newfound penchants for laying it all out on the table.
While not as intense as it was years ago, the game-playing backlash is still present. I see readers lashing out in comments and responding angrily to my emails on the Dating Decoder list anytime Eric or I indicate altering a behavior in order to have greater success in a relationship. Now mind you, by altering a behavior we mean not waiting by the phone for him to call and not canceling plans when he decides he wants to see you, not making your life all about him.
There is a middle ground between manipulating your behavior to land a man and being open and available to the point of transparency. Everyone values that which they have to work hard to achieve; that is a known fact that applies to all areas of life. While guys enjoy the pursuit , they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you.
By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities. And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you. When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
When your happiness is rooted in all sorts of things, not just him, you will never have to watch what you say or do for fear of coming off as needy because you will never be needy. Now it is worth noting that a lot of women want to know how to make a guy chase them because they want him to pursue her and commit.
If you want to know exactly what makes a man commit and how to make him commit to you and only you , then take a look at this article here:. He was a bartender at a restaurant I used to frequent and after several flirty exchanges, he finally asked for my number.
On the night of our first date, I had to delay our meeting time by a few hours because I forgot I was supposed to be having dinner with some friends. When I eventually met up with Craig at the bar, the first thing he said after our friendly hellos and my apology for changing things around last minute was: It shows a lot about you and made me even more excited to see you.
Since Craig and I lived somewhat of a distance away maybe about 40 minutes I went out of my way to see him when it was convenient for him. My schedule was more flexible than his so it made sense that I should work around his schedule, right? They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. If this is true, those men in the white coats should have been on me like white on rice.
I had a very needy mindset and I derived way too much of my self-worth from how men responded to be. To know what it does look like, check out this article: What it really comes down to is being a woman who values herself and is confident in who she is. The chase creates the illusion of chemistry, not a real connection. I hope this sheds some light on the whole game conundrum.
So go out there and do your thing, be happy without him whether him is in the picture or not , and let him be the icing on your perfect cake, rather than the flour, the eggs, the sugar and whatever other ingredients go into making a cake! If this article helped clarify the truth about the chase, and cleared up any misconceptions you may have had. The chase is only a small component of a relationship. There are two pivotal moments in any relationship that determines if it will last or not.
At some point, he will start to pull away and may lose interest. If not, you might make one of the major relationship-killing mistakes that many women unknowingly make. The next issue you need to be away of is at some point, your guy will ask himself: His answer will determine the fate of your relationship. Do you know what inspires a man to commit, and what makes a woman stand out from the rest in his eyes?
If not, you need to read this right now: The 1 Things Men Desire in a Woman. Or at best, pull back a little and stop investing so much time and energy into a dead-end relationship. I had a guy I like tell me the first time we were alone together he was not ready to date and I should get a pet for companionship.
Then he chased me, liked me more than I did him and I started to like him back, he pulled away and I chased him. And its been ME doing all the chasing ever since. He will say things that make it seem like we are closer reeling me in but his actions are telling me something else.
When I have foolishly gone to visit him. He is okay for the first few days maybe to get sex but then ignores me. This is coming from a 50 years old divorced father of 4 who I had flown half way across the country to see for a week and he was spending more time with his neighbor than me!
And even said to who cares if he looks for other women. It was so hurtful I felt I had to cut my trip short. I should have listened and stayed away from him. This is such a great article. I read it a couple of years ago, and I read it again a few times. The advice is priceless. If I feel like a girl is jerking me around or not being straight up with me, my interest in her will plummet. It makes women who play them appear manipulative and disinterested.
I have got close with women like that before and always end up disappointed with some scars. The author is also right, that being too available is bad. No one wants a desperate loser, so having a lot of stuff to do helps a lot. Katie — Better get started right away in the games and manipulation to make an ass out of him.
Thanks for sharing your idea. Unfortunately most women play uninterested when they really are. They claim that, men enjoy chasing, and ask girls never to chase a guy. THIS remain true whether you beleive or not…. Lack of communication putting friends before me and all. If he gave you his number,call.
Do it for fun and because he gave you his number. Being a football player, he may be in it for the chase. Be prepared he may be flirty. Always love and accept yourself before letting someone else come in. And she still prizes that possession rather than being ashamed, or at least aware, of her youthful ignorance and superficiality. Just let that sink in for a second, then decide if this is a person whose advice you can value. Wonderful article and advice!
For women, for whatever reason, this is the simplest and most complicated answer to locking down a relationship. Thus, we chase, we claw, we fight for dear life to hold onto it. You feel liberated to keep on living. Thank you for your great comment. I really needed that: So again, thank you! I am not confident so I do all the chasing. I have been told I am to needy and clingy. I think the simplest way to be happy in relationships is to stop doing what makes you unhappy.
He obviously doesnt like you enough, and that means that YOU are not happy with that relationship. Well it is actually not simple leaving someone you are in love with, I know form experience sadly, but it should be done because there is no point being in a relationship that is bad for you.
You say to go based off of how you feel when you are around him, and I feel great. What if I planned in advance and offered an idea for a date?
I am not a nice guy nor a jerk. But this rules has made dating life so much horrible for the guys who are really into a girl and who are genuine. Why do you have to play games? Just communicate, Be straightforward. A Guy who thinks with his big head not small head, will just drop a women who plays this kind of mind games like a hot potato and move on, even though he is in love with her done that few times./p>
I'm lost but sure of one thing is that I don't want to hurt her. I'm stuck between "she's punishing you" and "she's playing you" they both sound about the same Thank you for this. I seem to repeat this same pattern but it's important to remember that if she's into me, she will let me know. If not, it's OK too. Hi Nick, I can't tell you what is going on in her head, but I honestly feel that you deserve to be treated better than this.
Just guessing from your post, it seems that perhaps she enjoys the attention and attraction she feels from you, but is actively avoiding taking it any further. It is hard because obviously you really like her, but there are plenty of women who would genuinely love to have a relationship with your nice self without the need to play games.
I don't believe you have done anything wrong, so don't doubt yourself. If pressed to give advice, I would say to distance yourself and move on. Easier said than done when you are emotionally invested, I know, but in the long run, I think you would be happier without her. I'll try to keep it brief. Around 6 years ago I fell for one of my workmates, we quickly became best friends and everything we did was great.
She had a boyfriend at the time, and I foolishly told her I had feelings for her. Long story short it became messy, she broke up with him and just at the point I thought I had her it all fell apart.
When she got with a new guy it was too hard to so we fell out of touch. Now 6 years later I noticed randomly she was always the top of my Instagram stories viewer list. Looking it up I found this person was likely the person who looks at your page the most, off given we haven't spoken in years nor does she interact with my posts.
So I put a feeler out, and shot her a random message on Messenger. She took to it quickly, and for the next 5 weeks we were messaging daily, she'd send me pictures and tell me what she was up to. After a while we agreed to meet up, we talked till the early hours of the morning, and a few days lated we watched a movie on her bed where she was comfortable enough to fall asleep beside me. She came around to my place a few times and always acted very happy around me, but being hurt before I was hesitant to make the first move hoping she'd give me a sign it's 'ok'.
When I left she said in hopeful tone 'We'll catch up again soon'? To which I replied 'Of course'. That was the last time I saw her, our messaging slowed over the following 2 weeks, though when I went overseas for a week ironically to detox the situation she was all over it again, always asking 'How my day was' and taking interest in my activities. While overseas I asked her out to dinner, which she agreed, all seemed well.
I arrived back this week and no messages, except for Wednesday - the day we were supposed to do dinner where she messaged to say she couldn't do it due to prior plans with her flatmate who was leaving for France seemed legitimate.
She agreed to reschedule, and we had a nice messenger conversation, same the following night where she apologized for talking a while to reply as I know she is really busy at the moment. On Friday morning I tagged her in a FB post of one of our 'in-jokes' - got no response. I messaged her just after working saying I was happy to have all my work done, and asked how her day was - seen but no reply.
It's been 4 days and she hasn't attempted to communicate. She's started posting a few pictures of herself out and about to her Instagram account, I've not 'liked' any, nor attempted to communicate with her.
I did notice she is back to the top of my viewer list - being one of the first people to view one of my posts within minutes yesterday she doesn't spend much time in Insta, but knows I put a lot of content on there. I don't think there are any other guys involved, and she only a week ago seemed to really care and be interested in me. I don't think I did or said anything offense, I did ask to hang out a few times as it's been 3 weeks but surely that's no reason to start ignoring someone?
Maybe I was too nice?? With all do respect any man who has even a modicum of self respect and simply disregard whats has been written in this article. It seems that this article is targeted towards younger people , but i will beg tour pardon and add something to it.
Within the dating sphere we as men have several built disadvantages. A number of them are that the current wave of dating websites and apps are directed towards women and not men. Also as men the cultural shift in the last 40 years has left the man having to fit dual roles in the social landscape. To get more to the point we have been properly asked to more sensitive and more understanding.
We have also been expected to continue to be the"man" in dating, we have been expected to actually make the pursuit of a woman that we may have an interest in. This article seems to be at least on the surface to be of an aid to men in their dating experiences. But i think the better advice for men going into dating as equals. Have your own expectations and limits.
Pursuing is fine up to a point where your own feelings are becoming damaged by the women you are pursuing. In short treat women with the same respect that you yourself would expect, and if that doesn't happen then a man should know that it's time for a change.
That was a really bad move. You should have stopped after the first "dirty message," IMO. If she was withdrawing already and obviously lukewarm after the first time, then you just scared her off with the follow up messages.
I'd back off entirely with the sexual stuff. You might be getting the signs and just not recognising them. While I'm not romantic enough to believe that everyone has a soulmate, I do think that absolutely everyone has qualities that other people are attracted to. From your comment alone, it seems to me that perhaps you are lacking confidence, and I can tell that you are unhappy with the situation.
Do you have any female friends you could ask to see if they can spot a reason why women might not seem interested? If not, maybe talk someone professional, as the anonymity can help. You are obviously intelligent which a lot of women like, and if you can enhance your attractive qualities, I think you'll find that women will notice. This is a helpful article, but totally academic for guys like me. I never get signs of interest from women. In my entire life I'm 34 , no woman has flirted with me or shown the slightest interest in me even once - not in high school, college, grad school or the workplace.
Guys who get signs from women - however temporary - are lucky. Some of us just get to dream that a any woman will even acknowledge our very existence. I've known this girl for a few years now though we have yet to meet in person. Over the last year we've grown a lot closer and I've been her emotional support. She's shy and very self conscious. I started developing feelings for her and I believe she's developed feelings for me.
She used to always find reasons to message me and ask me questions about things etc. Over the last month she seems to have gone a bit cold and distant. We are business partners as well and she no longer asks for my input on things which she always used to do. It all seemed to start when she took a trip on which I'm sure a few days were spent visiting her ex's parents.
I'm not sure if her ex was around or not but I know something that she has not disclosed made her terribly upset when she arrived at her destination to the point where she was crying. She has since returned and still seems a bit distant. She emphasized "pretty" just as I did above. Now her family friends are there staying with her for a week, she doesn't know that I figured out that those "family friends" are her ex's parents. We've been communicating on an app that allows me to see when she's read my messages.
She responds to some and just reads others. I don't message her a lot, I never have. Using that app I recently texted her a very dirty sexual text message telling her that she's driving me crazy and what I wanted to do to her. She responded almost immediately with a bunch of embarrassed faced emojis saying she was surprised I had never given her any reason to think I was interested in her before and what I said to her seemed very out of my character and that she was happy about it, sent smiley faces, and told me not to worry.
After that it went back to her just reading some messages and not replying. So I tested the waters again and sent her another dirty sexual text about what I wanted to do to her. She just replied "Ha! So to test further I sent another dirty message and immediately after told her if she ever tires of me telling her what dirty thoughts I'm having when I look at her good or bad let me know and don't be afraid to tell me how she feels.
She read it no response. So needless to say I'm still confused as to where she stands and I think her ex's parents visiting her may have something to do with it.
Any advice from a woman's perspective? So i've been dating this wonderful Japanese girl for a couple of months, we had our seventh date yesterday. She has a little girl, and doesn't get a sitter so she's with her daughter monday through thursday evening, then friday-sunday when her ex has custody she works nights at a restaurant and gets off at We've hung out either lunches or after she's off work.
Then she'll be very warm over text usually immediately afterward, and then go cold-ish. I know she's busy but she used to send me good mornings, and goodnights a lot more. We still text every day, but normally I initiate it now.
When she's busy and doesn't have time or has to cancel plans she never has a counter offer. So i feel a little bit like i'm doing everything. Now that i'm writing this out it sounds like a conspiracy theory lol; but it's weird to me to feel stuck on square 1 after seven dates. At one point she talked about me meeting her daughter and hasn't brought it up since.
I make her laugh like crazy i do standup so it's not all that hard and I know she has fun, but part of me is exhausted from having the "hot first date" experience seven times in a row. This article is targeted to those in a new relationship. There should not be games after ten months, and I can understand your frustration. I think that if you are serious about staying with this woman, maybe you should get some professional relationship advice, as it is not good for you to be in this situation.
If a woman is deliberately playing games with you, I agree. However, I don't think it is always that simple. It is rare for a person to be without any insecurities, and often these are brought out when there is the potential for a relationship with someone really special.
I think that being understanding and reassuring at the onset of a possible relationship is the key. Once you have made it clear to her that you are interested in her and in having a relationship with her, the games should stop.
If they don't, then there most likely is most a problem. Tips for men and Lesbians. If a woman plays games with you. It's a red flag! She is not worth the headache or stress. Women like that are damaged, have low self-esteem, insecure, attention whores, need for control, etc.
I've been seeing her for 10 months and its always the same - hot for a few weeks - all lovey dovey then cold as ice. It drives me nuts. I am 15 and I had a really good friend in school for a few months but we both liked each other. It was really great and I could tell she really liked me but then we went for the holidays and didn't see each other for about 4 weeks and then on the first day back she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship and that being in a relationship stresses her out.
I didn't really believe that that is why she broke up with me and I assumed that after 4 weeks she had just lost interest in me but our friends say that she still likes me.
Every once in a while I think she might still like me but generally she seems quite normal. I keep trying to get over her but I see her every day and am getting mixed signals so I just feel worse and worse. I have no idea whats going on Does she still like me?
Can I get her back? Should I just give up? Jimmy, You seem offended by my use of the word "complex". I was not suggesting that men are simple, just that women are more guided by their emotions, which makes their decision making process more complicated. I don't believe that emotional equates to irrational, and there are benefits and difficulties associated with both types of decision making. When it comes to emotional response, I think the differences between men and women lead us to being able to find solutions that are both practical and empathetic.
Gg You were not stupid. If a girl who is already in a committed relationship deliberately makes you feel that you have a chance with her, that is not your fault.
However, people men and women also playfully flirt just because they find someone attractive. This is just human nature, and as long as the boundaries are clear, there is nothing wrong with this. It is when someone is deliberately deceived that it causes pain and becomes cruel. We all have past date experiences that we would rather forget. Look to the future and use your experience to help you find a girl who gives you the love and commitment you deserve.
Khan, I can understand why you are confused. She is giving you a lot of signs, but this might be because, as you said, she is unhappy in her marriage and she might be looking for a boost to her confidence and an excuse to leave her husband.
Of course, not knowing you both, I can't give definitive advice, but you might find this article helpful. It was written for women, but is just as relevant to men: I hope that you find happiness!
She is a married women and she is my relative the day when I saw her it was like whooooo! This story started when we were traveling together with my family she was sitting beside me and don't know she was intentionally allowing me to touch her body and my arm was touching to her tits and she allowed me.
After an hour later I couldn't control myself and my hand was on her thighs, again she allowed me. After that I called her and I asked is she angry on me for what happened?
She reacted as if we did nothing I thought it was a signal then straight away she pushed me and said no and left and she went outside and called me and said don't do this again its not correct. Then I couldn't control and started texting her and called her she used to answer my call and whenever I text her saying you look good in xxxx dress.
She dresses up in that same way and when I text her about hairstyle she follows it. There are many thing I cant explain that she is attracted towards me but she never admits it and my problem is like you know I cant even share with my friends. I just need a simple way how to make her admit and allow me.
I know she is not happy with her husband I dont want to hurt her. I just want to make her happy for some moments because she is very nice humble and polite and obviously she is beautiful. I dont understand what to do please help me out of this it would be great help! JMD, Thank you for your honesty.
You must be feeling very sad and disappointed. It sounds to me like this guy had been played before by someone else and was sensitive about it happening again. So often potential relationships are destroyed by lack of communication, understanding and by our own or our partner's insecurities. Women are always being told not to come on too strong, not to be too obvious and to play hard to get, or a man will not be interested. We're told that a man likes to chase a woman.
Open, honest women are often portrayed as nerds, stalkers or desperate, or at the other end of the spectrum, as easy or promiscuous.
Communication isn't easy when there is already a minefield of misconceptions to negotiate. I have flirted with someone whom I think is amazing and everything was going well, and he was touching my arm, and it was turning me on and I was enjoying everything but then:. Because I moved away from the group to think more about what to do next, since I did like him SO MUCH and didn't want to jump in too quickly with all these pending factors looming, he assumed I didn't like him.
I really just wanted a few moments to spend privately, to flirt and chat rather than in front of a group. I like PDA, but usually I prefer that in front of friends and family when things are clear between people.
If it were a bar or something, it wouldn't be so bad-- but these are important people, and every move was not something I would take lightly his mom was present. I was just trying to do things slowly and more intentionally-- with more verbal communication first.
He left and now, I think he thinks I was giving him the cold shoulder and trying to play him in front of our friends and his family. It's sad because I felt he was amazing in that moment, and I was so in shock that someone so amazing and magical appeared in my life when I least expected it.
Then I thought so many things are up in the air-- I'm afraid he wouldn't understand. I guess he didn't. I just do not get this one girl currently, it's like she expects me to read her mind. The thing is, the lesson I learn from this one girl 2 years ago, even the ones you might think they're into you, they will use you for the attention too.
The same goes for putting energy into trying to woo her, or even in a friendship, being the one obvious trying to keep in contact, either relationship, isn't healthly. It's likely that neither of you are compatible enough, one of youhas to change. Women are so immature. I dont trust the majority of them in a loving and caring relationship wise Well, I got into a relationship shortly after my previous post above from 10 months ago. Although I feel things are going to end relatively soon, I must at least give myself credit for getting as far as I have with this girl, who was super closed off.
She is 25 and I am her first everything. The relationship is waaay too much to get into at the moment, but it's making me question whether or not I wish to try again. Yes, fact remains that nice guys finish last, BUT how was I supposed to act during the whole suicide attempt aftermath, especially when I was the only one there for her? Needless to say, I did screw up a few times by being too nice and she tried to demote me to "just friends" status, but I was smart enough to know better than to accept that and walk away each time.
She did end up coming and asking for me back each time. I'm not sure if the pain of leaving her will exceed the pain of being with her, but I'm on the verge of giving her keys back, taking my stuff and completely cutting her off. And Elise, yes, I read your response. However, I have to admit that being on the autism spectrum does affect relationships.
It doesn't help that I've lost some skills while in this relationship because I haven't been approaching and practicing with as many girls, and this girl I am with is very closed off and stays to herself - and does so by choice, as she doesn't have social anxiety. I've made the mistake of committing too much to her and becoming too attached to her.
Not sure if she is attached to me though I do admit that some of the times she wanted to take a break or break up had to do with the fact that she had doubts about the relationship since I did hold back my feelings a lot and pretended to care less than I actually did.
But then again, I did NOT get her attention in the first place by being a "nice guy," and I did notice that when I began to mess up and slide in that direction, that's when she would begin to lose some interest. She used to get a little upset when I didn't text her at least every other day or tell her where I was going, but I knew better than to do things like that and become the nice guy who ends up just being a friend!
I wont even get into more of this. The act not only has a soothing and pacifying effect, but it develops an instant connection of mutual love. One of the most effortless ways to rekindle romance is by leaving endearing notes for your partner. Some of the biggest arguments can be solved when one of you just steps back and lets the other speak.
A calm conversation is always better than a heated, aggressive verbal confrontation. Don't make the act of love a chore. There are many ways to spice things up between the sheets. Try to handle any problem — be it financial, personal or professional — with confidence. A wishy-washy approach to a dilemma may make your partner lose faith in you.
Putting up a brave face in times of adversity, however difficult it may seem, can work wonders. To err is human, and admitting your follies, especially to your partner, is not a crime. Rather, it's a smart way to mend unsorted issues. If only it was that simple! If uttering a small word can put an end to a week-long cold war, then just go ahead with it. Hacking into your partner's online accounts and going through their messages won't get you anywhere. Talk it out if you must but don't go behind his or her back.
This one is a no-brainer and totally avoidable. No matter how well things ended between you and your ex, bringing them up in everyday conversations is never a good idea. You don't have to indulge in a passionate clinch in the middle of the street but little gestures, such as holding hands, compliments and kisses, will let your partner believe that you are proud and happy to be together.
Dividing household duties fairly can truly work wonders for you, and sharing the work is a great way to show your partner that you care. If your partner cooks, washing up is the least you can do. Remember the first time you went out on a date? Why not do it all over again? Set aside quality time with each other at a nice, cozy restaurant to rekindle your romance. Bring passion back into your life by booking a room at a spa resort or renting a cabin in the mountains.
You'd be surprised how a change of scenery can give your relationship a boost. Not to mention good health equates to better performance between the sheets. Accept your partner the way they are. If you try to change them, they might feel that you're not satisfied in the relationship. Also, If you want to help you partner get over a bad habit, it's best not to be condescending; instead take it slowly and with understanding. Are you wondering why things are always tense in the bedroom?
The culprit could be your TV. Your bedroom should be a place where you retire after a hard day and reconnect with your partner. Try a nice romantic conversation every night instead of fighting for the remote. A great way to include your partner in your life decisions is to make a combined bucket list.
Why not give them a massage or rub their feet after a hard day at work? Put thought into gifts. The key to good gift giving is to be thoughtful. If your lady speaks this particular language, she may put more value on the intent behind the gift than the object itself. Put some thought into it. Give her something that she likes or will appreciate. Well picked truffles, her favorite, are much better than a box of assorted chocolates. Some women like to have their wants anticipated.
Try to listen for hints that she drops. Did she casually mention how pretty a scarf in a shop window was? This could be your cue. Plan a gift that speaks her language. This combines gift-giving with any other way that she feels love. Someone attuned to quality time might like a vacation, tickets to an event like a concert, a walk together, or a meal out. For physical touch, give her a massage, take her dancing, or plan a physical activity together like rock climbing.
They want shared feelings, focused attention, and memories. Sitting in the same room without talking will not cut it. She wants to be your friend as well as your lover.
Play a board game, go bowling, go for a walk. Your options are endless, and all that you need is an activity that brings you together. Quality conversation can be one form of this language.
Get rid of distractions and talk, sharing feelings, thoughts, ideas, and desires. Make sure to listen when she is talking and to give her your undivided attention. It may seem like a small thing, but meals together build stronger relationships. They are one of the few times in the day when we can sit down with friends and family, with no distractions from work, electronics, or school, and really converse. Try to sit down for at least one meal per day with your lady, like dinner.
Eating together is a small investment of time, maybe an hour or 45 minutes in a day, but the rewards are large. Studies show that sharing meals lead to healthier psychological and physical outcomes.
Some people get caught up in work or life and slip off of the social radar. However, those of us who speak the language of quality time need that daily contact. At the very least, send a loving email. Be affectionate with touch. Any kind of physical affection is welcome, whether it is holding hands, hugs, cuddling on the couch, back rubs, or just an arm around the shoulder.
If your lady speaks this language, make sure that she feels your affection. Hug your loved one before she goes out for the day. Give her a kiss as you pass her in the hallway. Put your arm on her shoulder while pouring her morning coffee.
Put your arm around her when sitting together at home, on the bus, or on a bench. Hold her hand while walking. Be attuned to her feelings about public displays of affection. Some women might like being kissed in public, while others might feel uncomfortable. Give her lots of hugs. Hugs are a basic and very human way of showing affection. They reduce stress, release feel-good hormones, and promote bonding while making us feel more secure.
Make time for sex. One benefit of non-sexual physical affection is that it can lead to better sexual intimacy. People who touch, hug, hold hands, and are more openly affectionate often report having better sex lives and. Make sure to devote time to sexual intimacy with your loved one.
For some couples, once or twice a week is enough; some like it more frequently or even multiple times per day. Remember to be a generous lover. Cuddle after sex, talk, and use it as an opportunity to be close in all ways. Go back to wooing and courting her as you hopefully did at the beginning of your relationship.
Not Helpful 2 Helpful It means she probably doesn't trust you, or that your relationship isn't close enough. Try to spend as much time with her as possible. If she still accuses you, ask her why--keep your tone mature, and try not to sound defensive or angry.
Listen to what she has to say.
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