For some reason.
I will send u some photos in return. I am not into extreme pain just enough so you know right from wrong. And I want you to completely digest this. I'm seeking a companion who enjoys being active, trying new things and understands life should be fun and drama free. Hardworking, chilled, and able to be a great BFIf you are looking, which you must be if you are reading this.
The reason is simple, their ex-girlfriend sees right through their manipulation or lie that they are using to get her to miss them. And sometimes, your ex girlfriend will one up you with the manipulation and lies. She will put you through a shit test and if you fail that test, you will end up looking like a damn fool. A damn fool who ends up calling her, begging her to take you back. In this article, I am going to teach you how to make your ex girlfriend miss you the right way.
And I will teach you how to pass any shit tests and avoid looking like a fool if she tries to one up you. Now I assume you want your ex girlfriend to miss you because you want to eventually get her back.
It might be the best article on the internet about this. The truth is, just because your ex girlfriend misses you, it does not mean she will want to get back with you in the future. But just because she misses you does not mean she wants you back. It does not mean she will forget the reasons you both broke up. And just because she misses you does not mean she thinks that you both have a future as a couple or that things will change if you get back together.
Getting her to miss you is just a small part of bigger picture if you want to get her back and keep her. Again, read this article to understand the bigger picture and learn how to get her back and keep her. On the flipside, she might not miss you during no contact and you may still be able get her back if you make the right moves and follow the game plan in the above article.
Getting her to miss you after you have finished no contact is important. Once you reach Stage 3 and Stage 4 in getting her back, you want her to miss you when she is not speaking to you. If you follow everything in that darn article I keep talking about , you will automatically make her miss you. But, in this article we will discuss a couple more strategies to get her to miss you after no contact. Ever thought about how you suddenly start missing something?
To evoke the emotion of missing, you need both stimulus and absence. But, the amount of stimulus you need is inversely promotional to the amount of absence you need. If the absence of the thing or the person is pretty big at the time, then you may not need a very direct stimulus to evoke the emotion of missing.
From here on, we will speak the quantity of absence and stimulus in terms of percentage. Note that these percentages are only approximate in each case and I am using numbers only to illustrate my point. In the above scenario, the stimulus is not directly related to pies. But you have a strong absence of something you cherish. So, your mind finds a way to connect something not even related to pies, with pies.
Now that we have understood the importance of getting her to miss you not really important during no contact, extremely important after no contact and the basics of missing stimulus and absence ; we will go into some tactics on how to use it with your ex girlfriend and how to avoid letting it blow up on your face. One of the most obvious way to get your ex girlfriend to miss you is to do no contact.
I am sure you have come across that term hundreds of times as you searched about breakups online. Doing no contact means you stop contacting your ex girlfriend. I go into detail about how no contact affects you and your ex girlfriend in Stage 1 of this article. Here, I will explain why doing no contact is one of the most effective strategy to make your ex girlfriend miss you. You and your ex probably spoke to each other almost every day while you were together.
I am going to assume that you were together for quite a while. Your ex girlfriend is used to speaking to you about her day, about her feelings, about her likes, dislikes and everything in between for almost a year. After the breakup, she still has the desire to speak to you about those things.
But she will probably stop herself from doing so because she has decided to breakup with you and move on. However, you going through grief and in denial decide to keep contacting her everyday through every means possible.
You text her, call her, message her on Facebook. A lot of guys do this in an attempt to remind her of the good times. They do it to try to create a stimulus in her mind, so she remembers the good times and misses them. By contacting her, you are conveying the above message to her sub conscious mind. In essence, you are telling her that you are still present in her life and you will always be present in her life. When you stop contacting her, you suddenly become absent in her life.
But remember, just because she misses you, does not automatically make her want you back. If she decided to breakup with you, she will want to stick to it. Doing no contact can backfire on you if you are not doing it for the right reasons with the right mindset.
Again, I want you to read this article on getting your ex girlfriend back to have a bigger picture in mind. You are doing no contact to focus on yourself and become a better version of yourself. Sometimes, your ex girlfriend will test you when you start doing no contact. If you are doing no contact for the wrong reasons to get her to miss you, to make her feel miserable, or to get her to contact you first ; you will end up looking like a fool. And sometimes, she will even tell you straight away that she still loves you and has feelings for you.
Honestly, I want you to stop having hope that we can ever get back together in the future. Trust me, it breaks my heart every time I hear some poor guy go through this shit that their ex girlfriends put them through. But this is life.
And you gotta learn to live with it. And you gotta learn to win in it. If you are doing no contact for the right reasons, you will probably know how to deal with this situation yourself. I need some time to deal with the breakup and do some soul searching. I hope you understand. Stop contacting her after that and stop replying to her if she contacts you first.
I can guarantee she will respect you more for it and will start missing you like crazy. When you are doing no contact, you can do a few things to get your ex girlfriend to miss you. Like I mentioned before, trying to get your ex to miss you during no contact is only optional. As we discussed above, just doing no contact should be enough to get her to miss you.
Everything you do during no contact should be aimed at increasing your absence in her life. The reason is simple, as long as the amount of absence is pretty high, everything will act as a stimulus. As you both move forward with your life, your ex girlfriend will slowly start getting used to the idea of not having you in her life. The amount of your absence she feels in your life will start going down.
In my experience, it takes about days for this to happen. Here are a few tactics you can use after 21 days to get her to miss you. Social Media is a double edged sword. Using it to make your ex miss you can be a disaster if you are not ready for it. So if at any point you feel like the following tactics are backfiring, stop immediately and go full no contact.
As I said above, your aim is to create more absence in her life instead of doing things to remind her of the good times. The fact that you are living life is a strong signal that you are no longer living your life with her.
When she sees pictures of you living your life, her subconscious mind is going to take it a sign that you have moved on and will make her panic. This will create a strong absence in her sub conscious mind of you. This creates jealousy as well as absence in her mind for you. The thought of you moving on to someone else will create a strong absence in her mind for you.
Sometimes, your ex girlfriend will try to call you out by going the extra miles to post pictures of her. Your mind will go into berserk mode thinking that you have lost her for good. This is your mind on red alert mode. On other extremes, some guys may respond to this by trying to compete with her and posting pictures with other girls.
Thus confirming her belief that you are doing things on social media for her to see. But, I want to remind you that this is a shit test. That means she did it to get a reaction out of you. To call out your bluff. The easiest way to pass this shit test is to do nothing. If seeing her pictures or social media statuses causes you to panic, then you should block her from everywhere or delete your social media profiles.
Remember, your priority is to heal during no contact and focus on yourself. If anything compromises that, you must cut it off.
And that includes social media. If you and your ex girlfriend have common friends, there is a good chance they are conveying information to her about you.
You can use this to your advantage. If you are truly working on yourself and healing from the breakup, it will show. You can just ask your common friends to hang out with you and they will notice everything that has changed in you./p>
I will never order from them again. Bill Miller 4 years ago I wish I had read all these comments several days ago. I ordered some flowers for my mom for Mother's Day last Friday, May 9th, and chose same-day delivery. Flowers were not delivered on Friday, or on Saturday, Sunday or Monday. I emailed on Saturday to find the order status, and the reply was that they would be delivered on Monday, which, as I said, they were not.
Then I emailed to cancel my purchase. The reply was that I could not cancel the order because the flowers were "en route. I'm sitting here about mid-day Tuesday, four days or so after I first ordered the flowers. I just got cut off after being on hold for over 20 minutes. The recorded message kept repeating that "due to the holiday" which ended two days ago, "unexpected delays are causing wait-times" on the phone to be "30 minutes or more.
And how can you still be so overwhelmed by calls two days after Mother's Day? Will never do business with these people again. I wish I would've seen this sooner. And I've just broken even. That's not even considering the price of the actual flowers. This is a major scam!!!! Now I ordered 2 groupon.. Since I wanted to have 4 arrangements. I was unable to add an additional group on and had to place a separate order. Kate 4 years ago This is what I hate about being a florist and having to work with the large order-gatherers.
FTD, Teleflora, and all those other sites, are not florists! All they do is provide you with pretty pictures to click on, take your money, and fax the order to an actual local florist who has the impossible task of creating an identical arrangement to the picture with not enough money to work with, and having to wrestle with the tricky game of substitutions. Florists simply can not carry all of the flowers that are offered on the internet, so when an order is faxed over with flowers that are not in season or in stock, we are left to try to make something as close as possible.
We also get penalized for rejecting an order due to not enough money or not having the right kind of flowers. And when customers call and complain? That is the local florists fault too.
The internet companies don't take any heat. I would love it if floral design was treated like the art that it is, and left to actual floral artists who know what flowers cost and what looks good, instead of trying to order it online like off a menu like at a fast food restaurant. You cant do that with art. Shawna 4 years ago FTD is a RIPOFF but not just for you the consumer, but also for your local Florist, Firstly, Florists can not possibly provide every flower in their shop, so its not likely you will order an arrangement that has every thing you want in it.
Barb 4 years ago I was shopping online for flowers for my husband's secretary for "Secretary's Day". I picked a bouquet of flowers don't remember which web site and proceeded to order.
Went to web site 2 and placed an order. The flowers were delivered yesterday as planned. Today my husband's secretary received a second bouquet of flowers without a personalized card. I called FTD to inquire about the order. I told the rep I was charged for flowers I didn't order.
He was able to pull up "my order" by the delivery address I provided and said it appeared that I had placed an order in my cart and that order went through even though I never pressed submit. He could even see that the order was on hold because it was missing some information, but went through anyway. I asked how it went from my cart to being purchased, and he said that's just how it works.
How often do you shop online and add stuff to your cart then leave and go back and stuff is still in cart. Never once in all my online ordering did an order inadvertently get placed if I did NOT press submit. The rep could not explain to me how the order was placed. I finally got a so-called manager on the phone and she looked at the order and said an email was sent to my husband's email address confirming the order.
My husband never received an email otherwise we would have know to cancel this order. Secondly, she sad what the card read and who it was from, and it was not at all what I had written for the correct flower order. Bottom line is FTD said I placed the order. I called the local florist that delivered the flowers and the owner said there is such a scam going on with the online flower industry, particularly Wesley Berry Flowers -- the middleman between FTD and the local florist.
The charge is still pending on my credit card, but as soon as it's an active charge I will dispute it until they give me my money back. Oh, and how stupid that these flowers were delivered today, and yesterday was "secretary's day". Just add it to the list of the unprofessionalism and corruption here. Anthony 4 years ago As a florist, let me comment on what happens here. First, the arrangement pictured has been digitally enhanced to look more appealing, as is the common practice with catalogue items.
Secondly, the arrangement pictured on the websight is a one-sided arrangement on the backside, it's just greens, all the flowers are in the front as opposed to the one you recieved where the flowers are spread all around the vase. Neither style is "wrong" per se, but most people prefer the all-around design, and most florists prefer to do this type of arrangement as we often do not know where the recipient will place this in their home, and if it will be seen from all sides such as in the middle of a table.
Thirdly, the FTD pricing on www. Depending on your location in proximity to import facilities, prices might be more. That is explained in detail on the website.
Often online order-gatherers keep a portion for themselves as commission. Thats how they make their money. This is why one should never order from online services, but rather should call a local florist with whom you can speak directly. I always advise that, as a customer, you ask to speak to the designer that will be making the arrangement. If for any reason you are not allowed to speak directly with the actual designer, hang up and call someone else.
Chances are it's a call center that is going to take your money and try to farm the order out to a real florist for a percentage of the actual total. I see it every day. Paul Dychkowsky 4 years ago All, The same thing has happened to me. I ordered "The Precious Heart Arrangement" and got something totally different. It seems that the bait and switch campaign is alive and well at FTD. They said they will send another arrangement.
I remain skeptical as to the quality of the new order. When I inquired, I was told they ran out of the flowers I had selected- and to my astonishment! How is that even possible? Don't they contract with local florists? The worst part of it all, is that they have stalled my refund now for 3 weeks and counting. Every time I call them to ask about the status, the heavily accented woman puts me on hold for 3 to 5 minutes, and then comes back on, and tells me it's on its way.
This is a huge scam!!! I wish I wouldn't have been a victim of theirs, and read these reviews first! Anyone ripped off can call my cell: Thx Adam for your great work. Carlee T 4 years ago Got my 2 dozen hundred and some dollar wilted flowers today 3 days late! Looks like a child cut them and the vase is like a thimble and the fillers are weeds! Still trying to get a refund after an hr and keep going back and fourth with fed ex and FTD. I'm just gonna have my poor Bf call Visa and deny charge.
Horrible service, horrible flowers!!!! I had my parents waiting ALL weekend for the delivery and 3 days later the lame excuse from FTD is that they cant reach the local florist they send the order to. If this is how FTD does business and their idea of customer service they have a serious issue. Next time find a local florist online or by driving by if its local and buy direct. Just as a FYI. You posted in and it is now and the vase your flowers arrived in is the exact same version that showed up with my flowers!
What are the chances that your florist and mine are sharing the same supplier? You live up north - I live down south. FTD thinks it has its bases covered with the substitution policy, which is not on the page where the flowers are or even where the credit card information is but instead is strategically placed where only a dissatisfied customer would go to complain - the customer service link. So, the recipient has the flowers and they think this is what you paid for. Do you grin and pretend or pitch a fit?
Not good either way - which, of course, benefits FTD. I learned my lesson - local florists only and from now on, I will make it a point to click the customer service link on every website I want to order something so I can read things like "The flowers YOU chose to order because you liked the way it looked may be substituted with any other flower even if it is cheaper imagine that and by the way, the vase that you liked that your substituted flowers was supposed to arrive in can be substituted with a different one that you didn't choose not in writing but certainly implied that it also can be cheaper - oh and it was.
This is sort of like ordering a racehorse you look at online and carefully read the attached description to ride in a derby and having a miniature pony arrive instead. Class action lawsuit, anyone? Randi 4 years ago I am a very new Florist and just signed with FTD even though I really didn't want to use the wire services, but I wasn't getting enough business so I had no choice.
I am already noticing so many problems one I'm new to FTD so I have to front all the floral products with no compensation because they only pay you once a month. I did the math last night and after fees and everything else they take out I'm not even making enough to cover the cost I already spent. I'm losing money and I hate that they mislead the customer.
My customers are very important to me and I want them to be happy with the product they are getting but that's not going to happen if people keep ordering from wire services instead of straight from the florist. Not to mention it makes the florist look bad when in reality we are doing what we can with what FTD gives us.
Kerri 4 years ago Same story here! Wish I had read this first! This is simply fraud on FTDs end as you cannot say you are getting 17 stems and then deliver 9. I don't care what the technical terminology is, when you show 17 stems in a vase in the picture, that is what I am paying for. Time to go to the BBB and my credit card company on this one! Penny 4 years ago I am a local florist in a small town. FTD, and thousands of other organizations like them keep at least a third of your money, and florists are left to make an arrangement "similar" in appearance to their photos.
Note that in their photos, they pull every flower to the front of the vase, making the bouquets look huge and full when they snap the photo of the one sided arrangement. Once we take the same amount of flowers and spread them full circle around the vase, they look half the size. The moral of the story? Look online for a florist with an actual street address in the closest town or city to where you want to send flowers.
If there is no street address, they are "fishers", looking for flower orders they can forward to a real florist and keep a third of your money so you get a smaller bouquet.
A real florist will be able to tell you what they have available, what their true delivery charge is, if any, and you will get your full money's worth of flowers.
Gail Choate 4 years ago I ordered a Money Tree 50 bucks for my parents. What they received was a FERN. You know, like the kind you buy at Walmart for 8 bucks. Not only that, but it was left on their front porch in degree weather with no attempt at getting their attention they were home. They just happened to go outside and there it was. This was delivered by a local florist that I used because my experiences with florists were so bad.
I didn't realize a local florist would use FTD. When the florist was called, they said FTD authorized them to substitute the money tree for the fern because they were comparable in size. That's like saying it's okay to substitute a plastic ring out of a gumball machine for a diamond ring because they're the same size.
Are there not ANY reputable florists you can trust?! Mike 5 years ago I guess this would be called the ole: Screw these lowlife hucksters con artist. Don't ever do business with these scum sucking criminals. Hey FTD; if you were legitimate, your substitutions would be a step up, not three steps down to bolster your bottom line.
Valerie Matthis 5 years ago I live in Europe and had flowers delivered to the Startes and had the same experience as you. My wife thought it was one of my stupid jokes. Thanks FTD for ripping me off. I will never buy online flowers again. I don't agree, I respect your feelings and that is how you would like to be treated, and that's great!
I believe the article could be called "how I feel as an autistic individual, 15 things never to say to me please", but obviously it would be arrogant, rude, and insulting to say never say any of those things to autistic people, it would imply we are not individuals who have rights to our own oppinions!
Autism is such a broad term - how could anyone imagine we all feel the same? And the comment "any autistic person can speak for themselves" - what? That MUST be a typo, because you would need to be very ignorant to believe this is so! It must have been "many" or "most" because there are definitly those who can't! I hope noone has read that and believed it, you would really be doing the wrong thing if you were Misinforming people about autism!
You DO realize how broad the term is? You don't just think it means other people like you, because you're autistic? You share the same way my child brother or I experience the world? How do u know that? We all experience things differently, and you don't even know what form of autism we have. How rude to assume you experience the world the same as me.
I fully respect how you feel about the way you'd like to be treated, it's definitly not how I do! Or my son for that matter! And I also am the first to admit as a child I DID do things that I knew were naughty, hit my sisters while making a certain noise I would also make when I WASN'T in control, and it got to the stage they didnt know when to let me get away with what!
Another part of my disability? It was a child being cheeky and playing on my problems, the same as I have known someone with ADHD to use it to their advantage in highschool. The problem was real, but guess what - sometimes people lie, take advantage, or behave wrongly, and if we have something to blame it on, we Do! So yes, I will say it to you: People like YOU are telling the world it's ok to feel we are all the same, feel the same, share the same opinions.
I really hope people dont take this to heart, and continue with misinformation, or total ignorance, because they never ask the things theyd like to know! I prefer people to ask me, or make comments like u mentioned, it gives me a chance to educate people on the fact all Autistic people are different, and how it effects me, and I DO ask people about their individualities, when people mention being diabetic, unwell, having mental health issues, pregnancies, discover something unusual about themselfs, etc, and while I prefer to refer to myself as "autistic" when someone comments "you're a person who happens to have autism", I would NEVER be so RUDE as to be offended by someone TRYING to do the right thing, trying to be accepting, I mean what a kick in the teeth?
Ok, so they got it wrong by you, how the hell were they to know - we all feel differently! I would say "I really appreciate the effort to make me feel confortable, I am at ease with myself and prefer to be referred to 'this way', but I know there's been a lot of propaganda suggesting we as a group don't like this, and its kind of you to attempt to make me feel comfortable.
Just remember we are all different, and prefer different terms! Are we setting everyone up for a sure fail? And most people make these mistakes because some idiot with autism or whatever disability has stupidly said "we don't like this" like they have the right to speak for us all - thank you for continuing this behavior and speaking for us all.
I respect you feel differently, and that's ok. I would never post my opinion here as "this is how we feel as autistic people" - I respect you as an individual! In future please show me the same respect, and at least when you post something like this title it "15 things never to say to ME as an autistic person" or include a line that says "I acknowledge autism comes in many shapes and forms, encompasses a variety of disorders and issues, and that all disabled people are individuals, therefore the opinions expressed in this post do not and can not reflect the opinions or desires of autistic people as a whole.
You have no right to post information like its solid fact representing how autistic individuals feel. And as there ARE many autistic individuals who can't speak for themselves in these or many other situations, please don't insult them by assuming they feel as you do, just because they're unable to tell you otherwise. I CAN speak for myself, and I am saying very clearly, you had no right to post an article implying ALL people with a disability that falls under the label "autism" would rather those 15 things were not said to them.
I am entitled to my own opinion, thank you, and I don't want people treating ME a certain way because someone else with a similarly labelled disability presumes to speak for us! Never did I get the sense that Lydia was implying anything.
Did she ever once write, "These are 15 things you must never say to all Autistics"? No, she did not. Try reading it literally for what is posted, and not between the lines. Yes, you are entitled to your opinion. However, just as you have your opinions, so does Lydia. This comment has been removed by the author. I only started learning recently about the struggles of other Autistics because of the fact that my treatment was more geared towards coping, rather than suppressing, Autism.
The more I look into and think about this, the more I feel thatwe are being dehumanized especially the talk about curing Autism. Many of us are proud of being Autistic, and don't want our identities cured. Just saying thank you for your involvement and I think I'll adopt "ableism" vocabulary because I think it's clever. I like number 6 haha. My boyfriend has always struggled with autism and he always rocks my world.
Some people nasked me some of those questions, to be honest i don't care that much about what they ask to me. I try to explain that they should not close autistic people into boxes. They can ask me almost all of these questions and my caring nature will answer honestly since a lot of autistics are like me and do care about others. And if you get to reading this, I think you still need to write something that isn't "non-pretentious" for your "about" page.
Thank you so much, i have to share this I don't get offended easily but I would rather not be asked these questions. To the doofus who said 'pity us poor f ckers who live with people with autism' I say I really feel sorry for anyone who has to live with a selfish asshat like you! Nobody said autism excuses bad behavior but what is your excuse for yours? Average is just average, normality is subjective.
For example, I'm normal, I just happen to also be Autistic. Check out my responses to those fifteen statements you posted at AO3. Hi I'm a 12 year old girl and my guitar teacher is my dads friend and his 4 year old son is autistic and we were at a party when his father asked me to watch him he really seem to Interact with me in way he normally does not and its like I am really good with lots of autistic people and thanks to this next time I hang out or watch an autistic child I will make sure not to say anything bad.
This was an interesting read, not all of which I agree with and all of those disagreements I'd like to keep to myself. You seem so normal. I couldn't tell that you're Autistic. My child will never be able to write a blog post. You don't seem like him. On the inside, we have a few things in common. You couldn't do that if you were really Autistic.
The "have a job" part 9. He did say please, didn't he? You are a person first, not a disability or a disorder label. Her books are really amazing! Asking a question about the Autistic person to a parent, support person, aide, sibling, or friend who is standing or sitting beside the Autistic person That wasn't very nice. I've got my own opinions on this subject which again I don't want to go in to , so take these examples as you will. As an autist not into the whole "neurodiversity" thing, I ask you guys: You should be very proud of yourself.
When I saw you, my first impression was that you weren't an asshat. I didn't ask about your children 5. Did you know it's rude to make social comparisons with disabilities? You mean "MAY you have sex? I couldn't do that if I wasn't wonderful family 9. Not my type I have high fiction autism and o would rather bet be asked some of them questions. If we can inform they can understand.
Don't call me a retard but I like when they say I act on a normal level. So like these days everyone is autistic. I'm kind of sick of the term. My sister is "old school" autistic--you know, what they used to just call "crazy" in the 70s. She stims, she fusses, she repeats the same crap over and over. She talks to people who aren't there, she is barely literate, but she is a wonderful person. Sadly, she's in her 40s and will never have a "normal" life.
She still lives at home with our parents. This is a fact. She will not be "cured" by Jenny McCarthy and a gluten free diet. She won't write a book, or be on TV, or even write a blog. Back in the day, I'd say I had an autistic sister, and everyone knew what that meant.
These days, I get questions: My cousin is autistic! He is so smart, but he's just so geeky! She's not adorably geeky and when lbs of adult woman throws a tantrum fit for a four-year-old, ain't no one going to be happy.
Please remember there are others out there who are not the "blended into society" autistic. These days, these people seem forgotten. I am autistic and I've been a victim of all 15,Ive been verbally abused by my classmates in high school and grammar school and sometimes and by the way my names Jagger mabry so add me on facebook.
I am 15 just realizing I really do have autism Wow at all the people who can't tell that people are joking in the comments. This is the internet, they aren't really being prejudiced towards the autistic.
Get over it, you will never see these people in real life. They don't care either because they aren't really discriminant in real life. Thank u i love it well said im a mother of a 3 year old and his autistic proud of it! Okay, I have a question. I have a relative that told me she has had a conversation with an autistic by using her "psychic abilities. She told me that this autistic person she had the "psychic conversation" with told her that he chose to be autistic because it gives him freedom.
The reason she told me this is that I have an 8 year old son whom I have fought hard for to get him services to help him learn skills to navigate the world and so far he is doing very well. The thing is, she may in her narcicisstic brain thought she was comforting me but it enraged me.
I wanted to scream at her that autism is not a life choice and how dare she belittle what autism is. My other relative that observed the statement does not understand why I got upset.
At any rate, am I wrong for not wanting my kid around her until he is more mature? I'm autistic and just admitted it to everyone on my favorite Minecraft server. No one reacted negatively except for the player who always harasses. They accepted me as a player. That is the not an official achievement in Minecraff, but I can certainly call it one.
I was diganosed with dyslexia, adhd, dyspraxia, "A. S" and being asked 13 "what is it like being autistic". Is not anything that will cause offence. We grow up with it. And we are "most" were all individul but I personly if asked are more than happy to explain. It should be taken "case to case" were still human so "most" of us still have the same feeling as the rest of the world e. But I also know afew autistic people who just dont have the "sex drive" its a "case to case" thing.
Its not like we have a choice, if we do not get to do somthing it seems weird and somtimes "we" can get very upset about it. And I find it offencive Regarding 2, what I find most frustrating about it is that many of the more unpleasant aspects of my autism result in part from people assuming I have abilities that I don't have. People can never anticipate my needs without me asking, the way they often can for a visibly disabled person. And they don't tend to cut me a break when I'm struggling, because a nondisabled person wouldn't be struggling as much as I am.
If there was one thing I could change about being autistic, I'd make it that I look visibly different, in some way that most people readily recognize as being due to autism. However, 13 doesn't bother me at all. In fact, I enjoy answering this question. Incidentally, although I wouldn't word it that way, I do often ask people what it's like to be [insert ethnicity here], in a roundabout way. If someone seems to be an immigrant, I will sometimes ask where they're from, and ask some questions about what their home country is like.
They're usually happy to talk about it. Obviously I don't tend to mention upsetting things like the bloody revolution their country had, unless they chose to bring it up. I for one have no time for autistic people now get a fucking life.
First of all, I'm sorry to hear about your kid. I hope that it's not been harmful to her. That being said, autism is real, but has exactly nothing to do with being sexually abusive to other people inherently.
If parents, teachers or others are using autism to actually excuse sexually abusive behaviors, then they're wrong and actually doing harm to Autistic people by piling on stigma. There's no diagnostic criteria for autism that says that Autistic people are prone to or unable to stop themselves from sexual violence against other people.
On the other hand, people who try to force the autism out of people through punishment or "treatment" that sees all manifestations of autism as volitional don't end up with well-behaved neurotypical little angels. They end up with severely traumatized Autistic people who don't know what to be because they've forgotten how to be what they are but can't fit the mold they're forced into.
That's the kind of "help" we get growing up, more often than not, in one way or another. Thanks for the post. My little brother has autism and learning disability and I could recognize some of the things. I remember once, when I was angry at him and I told him that he ought to be old enough to do something.
I don't remember what it was, but it was something that "normal" children, his age, would be able to do. He then became very upset and told that I shouldn't say things like that, because he often heard that, and that made him sad. So the conclusion would be, that you shouldn't compare autist's, especially not children, with "normal" people at the same age as them.
One of the stupidest mistakes women make is having bias's towards men when they compliment their breasts,cleavage and rears, they always figure they got a right to put down the men who complimented them. Thats wrong passing a law to silence men is satanic. The socalled sexual hassling law is like racial profiling, the only difference is they are profiling men because they are strangers so that gives them an excuse to inhumanely cage them as if they were animals to be held in captivity.
Femeanists are monsters with their satanic behaviour delighting themselves in Lucifers ways such as when men are victimized they have alot of horrid things they have done they will burn in hell for. Making compliments a crime is one of them. If you really respected a mans compliments,whistles,etc. Racial profiling is by definition assuming behavior that may or may not exist because of a person's race. Forbidding sexual harassment deals directly with prohibiting conduct. Unless your position is that to be a man makes sexual harassment inevitable, in which case you're the one making assumptions about men as a class, and an assumption that doesn't give decent men enough credit.
Also, "putting down" people whose types of "compliments" are often precursors to or enablers of sexualized violence that see other people as things to be had and enjoyed rather than as people to be treated with respect is a means of self-protection.
When I went to school I knew people who had disabilities. I could understand where this might be offensive for one reason or another, but why dont women want to live in peace with men who compliment them without thinking that jailtime is the "solution"? Jails don't reform people not even men who should not be there because someone had to pass judgment on their compliment and on the men who gave it.
Women should not look down on men who compliment parts of them and develop a bias, a prejudice against them because of the fact they are not their boyfriends or friends thats not practicing the golden rule. Having equal rights means even men who dont know the ladies should have as much of a right to compliment those ladies bosoms,cleavage and rearends as those who do know them.
This is a different problem to whats been discussed here. So the moral of this story is that men who dont know ladies should have the same right as lovers and friends to compliment womens bodies equally.
I have yet to hear of anyone who was jailed because of a compliment. Hell, full-on rape is often not treated as a crime worth prosecuting. The thing that separates compliments from harassment is that the latter is reductive. At least if you say "Hey, cool shirt," or "Awesome hair," you're at least saying something about the person as a whole - not only aesthetically, but also about their taste, their skills, their expression of themselves.
Also, this term "equal rights" - I do not think it means what you think it means. I think you're looking for "utter lack of personal boundaries. For instance your friend makes a joke about your intelligence or your odd habits, it might be perfectly alright, but if a random stranger or even your boss or someone starts picking on you in even a "friendly" manner over stuff like that it's crossing a line.
Even with positive things - if your friends or romantic interest want to give you a hug, that can be one thing, but that doesn't make the rest of the world entitled to it.
Unless your position here is that female bodies are public property and having legitimate and enforceable boundaries is mutually exclusive from having an XX set of chromosomes, which is absurd even if it would seem to be the prevailing view in some situations. I am gay and my lover of 5 years just left me one day. I found out that he was stolen from me, by my so called best friend. He told my lover so many lies about me I could not eat nor function for months, until one of my coworkers gave me this email: So I contacted Dr.
Lee ordering a love spell for my case, told him my story. He cast the spell for me 2days later, jack and his partner broke up. He came to my job, apologized to me and begged me to give him another chance!
I do not know how to thank you! Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers gmail. All of this is tedious beyond words. I'm having a difficult time with I'm the older sister of an autistic brother. He is severely so, nonverbal, dependent on others for everything from eating to going to the bathroom, and a very short term memory so learning any form of communication or skill is impossible. He is as severe as they come. He was prone to violent tantrums before he got put on ritalin, and I grew up getting battered.
I am one of the few ppl he used to be able to communicate very basic things to, like food or bathroom etc, and even that was very rare it was more common that he would have tantrums and engage in self harming behaviour and now it's just my dad since I moved away for uni he's forgotten who I am basically. I've been told off by an autistic person on another blog and essentially was told she knew more about my brother than I did because she was autistic and I was allistic.
I was accused of trying to drown out my brother's voice and viewpoint. I mean, I know my brother more than anybody else. He doesn't have the cognitive ability to express himself in any capacity except for his most basic needs. So do I not get to tell her she really has no right to talk like that? A huge part of my life is defined as being my brother's caretaker, and this person told me I was abusing him and that she knew more about him than I did, in spite of never having met him.
Like, autism is a huge spectrum and obviously my brother is very different than her. They may both be autistic but I can't see how she can be confident she has more in common with him and that she understood him better than the person who has been his older sister and caretaker for two decades. I don't know why people with good hearing need a label. So what if you are "autistic'? I bet I can hear just as good as you, and Well, I'm autistic and and the people who say this stuff should 1 Shut up their frickin mouths, 2 Be more educated, 3 Be more more polite and accepting, and 4 Be more empathetic to the autistic person.
The comments here are hilarious. I'm archiving this for my studies on autism. So many of them sound like a stuffy old English elitists with a bushy mustache who pops their monocle, spits out their tea and says "Well, I never! I'm autistic, but I don't have a problem with people asking what it's like to have autism, I think that if I can at least try to explain to them what I go through they might understand how to interact with me more effectively.
I'm autistic but I a have a IQ of real non online test if someone called me a retard I would just laugh at them and tell them how I am better than them. I am not a narcissist though I can view the world with a open mind and see faults in my self and others and the general way the world works. I love my flute. I love the Minecraft server I go on. I love reading books. I love God and His word.
I love cooking egg-related foods. I love being autistic. I love being me. Is autism the same as aspergers? Because I was diagnosed with AS and apparently that's on the autism spectrum, does that make me an autistic? Technically it's a subtype of autism, though it's been officially phased out as a diagnostic category.
You should understand that most people are ignorant about autism, and believe me that I don't think the people that made you feel this way are gonna ever como to read this blog to read what bothers you. In conclusion your blog is useless because only people who care about autism will come read it, and the people you want it to read it, will never do it Learn to forgive the ignorant because they don't know what they are doing There are people out there that go through much more suffering than that First of all, nothing will ever change unless people do something to change it, and speaking up is part of that.
What's the point of inertia, except for the benefit of people who benefit from how things are now? Second of all, this at least the part that no one will ever read or learn from it outside a small group of people just isn't accurate based on how social media works. Yeah, the people who directly inspired this post may never read it.
But the self-selecting group of people interested in autism read it. They email it to their Autistic friends or people they know who know Autistic people - "Is this accurate," "I thought you might be interested," etc. They post it to social media and it gets reblogged, reshared, commented on, all of that, and things continue.
The fact that you're going to comment on something written more than a year and a half ago is testament to the fact that people DO read this stuff and its reach can actually be pretty wide and significant.
I'm likely autistic I'm looking into getting a professional's opinion, though I scored a 36 on the A. I have many of the autistic behaviors expressed above. My parents even told me they went through a period that they were considering getting me tested, but I guess some my behavior's started to change, so they didn't go through with it.
Though I agree that most of these responses are extremely rude, I find many of the author's reactions to be completely P. In particular, 12 was overly political correct and 14 is just being picky. Though I understand that I'd want people to talk to me directly, I also put myself in the shoes of others and I totally understand why people act like they do in It's awkward and you don't want to ask something that may be offensive, so you ask a friend or family member as politely as possible, of course.
I agree that "neuro-typicals" should be more open to the autistic population, but at the same time I feel like the autistic community should be equally understanding of neuro-typicals instead of judging them for their lack of knowledge regarding autism. Otherwise, how does that make the autistic community any better or breach differences? I don't understand how setting boundaries and saying how we think we should be treated for instance, asking to be talked to directly like a person rather than to be asked about as if we were a dog or an accessory when we're standing right there is equivalent to the ways in which Autistic people are excluded, infantilized, dehumanized, abused and even killed.
The kinds of judgment wielded against Autistic people by virtue of what we are carries a lot more power right now than the "judgments" we might have towards them based on how we get treated, so as not to be comparable in a meaningful way.
I'm fine with most of these aside the retard one it's curiosity what drives me what can't other people have it. I was tempted at an autism walk to ask an autistic that. Not to be rude but to see what it could be like in my son's head. I wanted a perspective on what my other son nicky was dealing with. Right now he is non verbal but is starting to become verbal and finding his voice. Thanks for the 3 power point slide material. I'm doing the presentation on autism.
How I can do a 10 minute presentation on something as complex as autism is beyond me. I'm trying to inform, educate and advocate at the same time. I have autism and I am proud of it, I actually have Asperger's syndrome. Autism can't be controlled. Normal isn't real it isn't freaking real! Fuck that idiot who invented so-call normal. Normals have a boring day same thing same old. So may we be blessed for not being normal. Autism IS considered a cognitive disability.
Everyone here that said autistic people use their "disability" to get out of trouble, have got to be the dumbest people I have ever met. I think people with autism are awesome.
It's not their fault they were born like that, it's not like they can just undo all of it. All of you that said all those bad things about them are a bunch of low life's. If you were in their shoes how would you feel if you were criticized like that for something you couldn't stop.
I just figured out that I am one of those "invisible" autists--the syndrome wasn't known in the U. Did terrible in gym class, uncoordinated in sports, last to be picked for a team, socially awkward--you all know the drill.
Well, somehow I outgrew the clumsiness--maybe playing soccer as an adult did it. Anyway, I finally got back into a social situation after coming out of a severe depression lasting four years. I accidentally said things that offended people and they just walked away pretty common experience for autists, I guess.
Anyway, I had feelings of alienation that I thought I had left in youth. I didn't succumb to those feelings and started researching autism and thinking about my social disability. I figured out a couple of things. First, the "warning will robinson" that most people experience as a bright, flashing neon sign on a dark night when an inappropriate comment is considered before speaking appears to me as a candle on a bright sunny day.
I just fail to see the warning sometimes. And even if I do, since I don't understand why, I may fail to heed it. Second, it seems that in the flow of conversation my processing just can't keep up with the flow of conversation, so that either I end up interrupting someone or I keep quiet. Also, this means that sometimes I don't realize that something I'm about to say is offensive until two seconds after I've already said it.
Obsession seems to trigger my social awkwardness. Oh, and a real irony is that my personality is extroverted. I get my energy from being around other people. Anyway, thanks for listening. It's nice to know that I'm not alone. Guess I'll check with a professional to get an authoritative diagnosis. I find offence in you constantly refering to these individuals as an autistic. I have 2 ASD kids. Its like saying to are you a gay. Its not a description of what they are, its a description of what they have.
I am autistic, and both myself and many other autistic people have written extensively about why many of us do in fact prefer to call ourselves autistic adjective or autistics noun. Frankly, I find it offensive when other people tell me that I should be offended by the way that I choose to refer to myself. Wow, tnumber 2- 5, 9 and I get ALL the time. Sometimes I get tired of it. It's not being offended But of course, I do not expect strangers to get this list and I shrug off many discriminatory behaviours on a regular basis.
I am also very understanding of people who just can't seem to act appropriately. I try to treat all with compassion and empathy. If your regular practice is less- do what is normal for you and that is fine but the accusation that this list is defensiveness thus weakness is a tad false. Although I do appreciate your point about walking on eggshells and I am always conscious of that when dealing with others.
My four year old has just been diagnosed. Would love some advice he has a lot of sensory issues. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. I manually approve comments, so sometimes it takes a few weeks, months, or even years to find and approve comments.
This delay is normal. Note that I also don't publish every comment, since this is my personal blog. Unfortunately, anonymous commenting isn't available anymore since it resulted in over one million spam comments in a short period. So before you write an angry comment or email about it This list has been widely circulated as though it is meant to speak for all autistic people and cover all possible situations or contexts it's not , and as a result, I've gotten a lot of really misplaced hate mail and mocking comments.
Like with anything else, context matters. If you are at an educational event about autism or visiting a website where autistic people take questions from the public, then yes, it is definitely OK to ask questions about what it's like to be autistic. If you personally know an autistic person or several , and they have told you or otherwise indicated that they are open to talking about their personal experiences with being autistic, then yes, it is definitely OK to ask them questions.
This list is meant to describe common things that strangers, out of context i. And yes, there are probably plenty of autistic people out there who might not be bothered or upset by some, many, or all of the statements in this list. It's not about being politically correct or avoiding being offensive But they say WE lack social skills. Quotes of things that shouldn't be said. They can be ableist and triggering. I got rid of all binarist pronouns in this post.
I also edited a few other sentences. After receiving a slice of humble pie over the anonymity of the internet for language that was interpreted as cissexist, binarist, and inaccurate, I've revised the language in number I use identity-first language i. Factually speaking, Autistic people in many cases do not have an intellectual or cognitive disability, and many people with intellectual or cognitive disabilities are not also Autistic. There are some Autistic people who also have an intellectual or cognitive disability.
Nevertheless, the word "retarded" is often very hurtful for Autistic people, as it is frequently used as an insult to dehumanize people with developmental and intellectual disabilities. The r-word is often used to express hatred for people with disabilities. Please don't use it. I worked in Customer Service and I could tell why someone was returning something before it was out of their mouth because it had come in before. The sad news is, people use Wal-mart as a rent-a-center or should I say free center and punch their cards for the five-finger-discount club.
We become very jaded up at customer service. The rules are there to keep people from stealing but it is by those very same rules we have to turn away the honest people. I suppose what I am trying to say is, respect is a two-way street and there were customers I enjoyed seeing and everything was fine, even with it being our first meeting.
But there were some customers who acted like spoiled children for not getting everything and a bag of chips. I even had one fellow associate tell me she had a woman in her line where the little girl had been telling her she needed to potty even before they came up to the til. Before the transaction finished, the little girl just went in her pants and her mother did nothing to clean her up nor the mess on the floor. You are so right! I think Wal-Mart employees are so mistreated by customers.
I save a ton of money buying things at the dollar store. Especially with greeting cards, party supplies and cleaning supplies. Greeting cards are definitely cheaper there than anywhere else. For the cleaning supplies, I get them free through doTerra. I did used to buy the pet carpet powder you sprinkle on before vacuuming at the dollar store, but I noticed the last time I went the last product I bought there , the size had drastically reduced, by a LOT.
So, it became the same price for me as say Target or Fred Meyer. So, I was able to cross that store off my list as well. If you keep the receipt, you can return the item and exchange it for a like item for free.
So, box the receipts just in case. I have shopped at WM since the s. It has drastically changed. Poor old Sam is spinning in his grave!!! Yes, it is very much that way Carol. Same with Disney once Walt died. Totally different direction, and not for the better.
I always seem to get someone to fight me. Some sort of water filter. So, I asked the cashier, but it was already done. I had to go to returns.
So, I had my full basket of groceries, went straight to returns and told them. They treated me like a criminal! I told them what happened. She gave me such trouble. Now, I could see how that would be possible with a water filter, to return a used one, but my receipt had the time and date like minutes ago! Apparently, with my soft voice and my friendly smile, I look like a criminal.
As for exchanging for a like item that the new item will break on me again, no thanks. Tried that a few times too. Nope, nothing will ever get me back into a Walmart store. Also, I have had customers buy top name brands in the store then go into the fitting room and switch the tags of an old item and new item and put the tags on the old item so, they get the new item for free.
Not defending the clerk at Wal-Mart but this is a problem for a lot of stores in our area. The problem is the thieves work in pairs.
One goes back and buys the item and steps outside with his cart. His buddy then hands him a used water filter, in your case, and takes the new one from him and they put the used in the box for the new one.
They can do this usually in less than a minute sometimes 2. First guy then goes back in with cart and receipt and returns item he bought in error. It is frustrating for the store. My husband works at home depot and this happens all the time. Some stores only issue store credit but then the crooks take the gift card outside and find someone to sell it too to get the cash they want. It is awful what they do. Jacqui, yeah, I definitely understand there are a lot of crooks out there.
I think it comes down to being a smart shopper wherever you go and checking the quality. I sew and know what to look for when clothes shopping.
Some things like baking soda, cat litter, plastic hangers, etc — I just want under one roof to save gas and time. I used to work for a manufacturing company that made hunting products and the like. The materials we used for those items that shipped to walmart were of much less quality than those sent to the sporting goods stores.
I found out that walmart had demanded my company use the poor quality materials. Sorry to hear that. It seems to be the same story we are hearing over and over from different companies. They are using poor quality for the Walmart bound items and higher quality or for the other stores. This was years and years ago, but after a few things like that I wondered if it were possible.
I think that Walmart just tries to get the product out there to the masses and make the most amount of money. Honestly, my life has become SO much simpler now that I buy high quality items. I buy it once and it lasts me for years.
Most of the things I buy are online nowdays. Even on Black Friday. For the past several years, even before it became popular, I did all my Black Friday shopping online. Thank you so much for sharing Carrie! But name brand food not being the same sounds boarder line paranoid. In my area walmart is cheaper on food and some other items I can never or rarely find coupons for. Target only pans out for me if I have coupons plus red card. Though I like target brand freeze bags, moisturizer and clothes better.
I can do just fine at Target and my grocery store. Sarah, thank you for sharing. I started getting mad at myself. Like, why did I go so overboard. They make you trade. The last time I went there, years ago, I remember being so incredibly thoughtful.
What I DO like about Walmart is their very liberal return policy. I was recently browsing laptops on Amazon and many buyers had complained about getting lemons which they then had to send to the manufacturer for repair and pay shipping or return to Amazon and pay return shipping and get charged a restocking fee.
Many shoppers browse Amazon to compare prices and read the reviews, but they buy at Walmart because of their liberal return policy. Just get treated like a criminal each time I try to return something. When I saw opened and taped back up underwear yes, underwear!
If I buy something and I keep having to use their return policy, why buy there? It really bugs me that Walmart and other stores too put the returns back on the shelf for full price.
When I buy something new, I want it to be new. Buying something for me and having to return it all the time is a waste of my time. Why would Walmart open themselves up to all that? I guess I just feel like Walmart is not honest with me when they do things like that. Liberal is certainly not the word for the west coast. Fifteen days with receipt. And only managers can look up transactions period.
Only when it was for a manufacturer warranty or some circumstance without a return would management look it up. And forget it if it was cash. I have gotten plenty of great deals from the dollar store and Walmart. I think you just have to know what to look for. Dish cloths, sponges, brushes and other cleaning supplies are a great buy at the Dollar Tree.
Also party supplies and coloring books. And I find the cleanliness and politeness of Walmarts depend on the location. My computer is a cheap emachine brand that I bought at Walmart for my mom but she never used. I have been using it for 3 years now and it has fewer problems none than my Dell had. The jeans I bought, however, stretched out and ripped in the seams. Some people have bad experiences and some have good. I have a list of products I only buy from dollar tree because they are so much less expensive and the same quality as what I would buy elsewhere.
You DO have to be discriminating though, because the store is a mix of quality and cheap. For example, I used to buy lint rollers there we have a dog who sheds tremendously , but the last time I went, the rollers where literally falling apart in the bins. It is super tight, but workable.
I agree with it being hit or miss. I used the buy the carpet deodorizer for pets when you vacuum, the sprinkle powder kind.
It was a huge box for a buck. But, the last time I went, it was WAY smaller. Like by a LOT. Now, with the size difference, I get it for the same price as my regular store. Wow, they just built a Whole Foods here. Thanks for the heads up. We live in a toss-away society and things seem to be made to fall apart quicker. And I have never been treated like a criminal for returning an item. They just shrug and go through the process.
Dollar Tree does have some good items for a quality price. For example, I buy cleaning supplies, greeting cards, party supplies, soap, shampoo, and candles there. Walmart is good for frozen food, spices, office supplies, and canned goods. I save on produce and meat at Aldi and a local grocery store called Shoppers. For clothes and shoes, I prefer going to discount stores like TJMaxx. I do not like walmart at all. My husband works for a national beverage company.
He was working as a salesman and walmart was one of the stores on his route. Walmart treats not only their employees horrible but their vendors too. It is sickening to know what goes on behind the scenes. We do not like their stores and do not shop them. The stores are dirty, understaffed and do not sell american made products like they one did eons ago. Sadly this company is contributing to the poverty in america. Go to youtube and type in Walmart Food Stamps and you will see what I mean.
I agree with the Walmart issue. I avoid Walmart like the plague, but sometimes I have no choice but to go there. I hate doing it, but sometimes I have to. I buy some cheaper candles, vases, and sometimes floral picks from there. Also, some of their cleaners work well, too. I totally get it Kristina. Then, after we are out of meals, I can easily just go grocery shopping for a week.
I know someone who is at the grocery store every other day and buys only a couple days at a time. Her grocery bill is massive. I am a big Aldis fan. Almost all my shopping is done there. Since I do not coupon I do ad match at Walmart about every 2 weeks. I stick to my list and get in and get out. I make my own laundry detergent and the ingredients are cheaper at WM.
We have a very nice WM with very nice cashiers. As far as the DT goes I do buy quite a bit from there. All party supplies,they have a great degreaser agent. I also buy lots of personal items for our xmas boxes at xmas time and to donate to shelters. I do watch the sizes of everything.
I buy 10 boxes at a time for my kids school and home use. If you have a budget and stick to it I really do not care where anyone shops,. I know they are always in need of tolietries like that! I just found your site and was very interested to read this article. I have to say though, I was pretty disappointed. I agree that for a lot of items, especially ones that will get heavy use, it might make sense to pay more somewhere else to get a better quality one.
However, Walmart has good prices on kids clothes, school supplies, cleaning supplies and many grocery items. Also diapers and wipes. My elementary aged kids have grown up wearing clothes from walmart and we have never had any problems with their clothes. We bought all of their diapers and wipes there and were very pleased with the results.
While I am happy for you that you are able to avoid shopping at Walmart and are able to get good deals on what you purchase, I think you could have focused more on that point of the article and a little less on how awful Walmart and by extension, the people who shop there is.
Thank you for sharing Laura. I do not believe that people who shop at Walmart are awful, so if anything I said reads that way, I apologize. For me, I have found that Walmart was keeping me poor. If I am to take my responsibility before God seriously, to teach other women how to save money, I have to talk about the bad as well as the good, although not always pleasant for me. Years and years ago, before extreme couponing became popular, Walmart was my favorite store.
I shopped them several times a week, but saw a slow decline in quality and the prices kept going up. Because I shopped there a lot, and in the wee hours of the morning when most customers were still sleeping, I saw a lot more than most. It may be different elsewhere, I surely hope it is. I want good quality groceries for the lowest price. Any tips on any of these? It really depends by area and store. What I do when determining which store gives me the best prices is to make a chart of all the foods I buy on a regular basis and then write down the prices at each store.
Then, I can see where is giving me the best deals on most of the food I buy. Then, I just shop there. I generally stick with 1 or 2 and that gives me a pretty good range of good deals. Bought them earlier this summer. I did buy black shoes for work there and they lasted just fine. There are only a couple Walmart employees that are actually friendly lol. I buy all of my canned goods with case-lot sales at my local store, and buy some things at Costco, but for most of my shopping, Walmart is the cheapest with price-matching , and the quality is good too.
That said, I take note of your hose experience and will keep that in mind for products that I will eventually be able to afford we are currently in need of a new hose after I drove over the end of ours and smashed it flat!
They may make your tooth paste 50 cents cheaper.. But your deodorant just went up a dollar without u noticing. They put up those little flags to let u know what is advertised and on rollback.. But of course there is nothing to tell u when sonething goes UP. Walmart is a HUGE company because they are pros at paying their employees wayyyy too little and tricking people into thinking they are helping u save money so u can live better.
Research says the majority of their employees that are over worked and exhausted are on food stamps and family assistance.. Like several others who posted above, a friend of mine is the manager for the the Hanes Her Way brand and for 10 or 15 yrs Walmart has strict specifications that they require for the Hanes Her Way products in their store — more cheaply made of course. I hate what they stand for and how they treat their employees — the Waltons are the richest of the rich and they pay their employee so little they must go on public assistance — and then we end up paying anyway.
I rejoined Costco because I get great values on dog and cat food, gasoline, and several other items especially when combined with store coupons. I do Bulk Food elsewhere and whatever little remaining at my local grocery a mile from my home. They say they are all beef hot dogs. The 1st ingredient is beef, The 2nd ingredient is maltodextrin.
Do you know what the primary ingredient maltodextrin is used in? Do you know what Benefiber is? No wonder I was trotting to the rest room so quick after consuming one of their dogs. Speak about adding fillers to their products! No arguments, no problems. I go to Walmart for cat litter and juice boxes. They have the best price on both in my area. I grew up in a household where we were not allowed to go to Walmart at ALL.
Their prices have skyrocketed over the past few months. Thank you for sharing Hannah. Unfortunately, they also have a huge budget to pay people to say nice things about them and cover their tracks. We moved from an area where we only had Walmart and one other grocery store, which was over 25 minutes away, and now we drive 10 minutes and have a huge selection of stores with quality products in our new location.
We had come to Rarely shop at walmart until about a month ago when the Walmart Falcon Jet came into my husbands work to get routine maintenance and updating done to it. From reading The Tightwad Gazette years ago, I learned about cost per use and when buying something of quality matters.
Some items are investment items that should be good quality so they will last for years such as large appliances, power or garden tools. Thus the cost per use is very low. We bought a Sears Craftsman garden hose because they are guaranteed for life. Finally someone is bold enough to say this! It is so true. You know I spent a long time wondering if I was crazy!?
I was certain Walmarts brand name products were inferior to other stores. My bars of soap, rolls of toilet paper, paper towels, etc, were always smaller than, say, Target. For the exact same brand! Thank you for confirming I am not the only one out there that has noticed this!! Right now I am wearing jeans from Walmart that I bought for work 3 years ago. They wash just fine and have lasted for 3 years and counting.
I also shop at other stores for clothing too. I do shop at Walmart, but I wanted to mention something that I came across recently. I bought Q-Tips at Walmart recently and when I went to use them, I noticed they were very flimsy and much cheaper than the way they used to be. I went on their facebook page and noticed many others complaining.
I mentioned it to a friend, and she stopped by Dollar General to pick up a pack and test it out. To our confusion, the DG pack was the old, normal, sturdy ones. I am convinced, after comparing both and buying several boxes, that they sell Walmart a cheaper version!
For things like name-brand shampoo, conditioner, antiperspirant, laundry detergent, paper towels, cleaning products, etc. Just not worth my time. I can count on Walmart to have good prices and to generally have a good selection of items I need. With that said, obviously you get what you pay for.
I buy from actual clothing stores. Same with furniture and electronics — I buy from specialty shops usually. But for bulk items, many food items, and toiletries, Walmart is fabulous. Brands exist and last for a reason… people trust them to be good and their products reliable.
Like I said, usually you get what you pay for. You get what you pay for. Even though Walmart has some really great low prices you may end up paying more in the long-run because you will be replacing the items in your house sooner than necessary. I wrote a post on this called Frugal vs.
Our experience was when we bought a pair of running shoes for my husband at Wal-Mart. We bought the most expensive pair they had. They gave him blisters and fell apart quickly. We went to a shoe store and got him a more expensive pair that is not only more comfortable, but he is still wearing them. When it comes to the Dollar Store, you need to pay close attention to the sizes.
They are often much smaller thus you are actually paying more. As with any store, we have to really scrutinize those oz and have a price sheet with us and calculator. I love your attention to detail. Typically when I do shop there there is a walmart express near my apartment I spend more than if I were to go to Trader Joes for Groceries and Walgreens for dry goods paper towel, toilet paper etc.
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